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Relationship Feedback

 

 

Relationship Feedback

 

for

 

Carl Smith
and
Robert Rohm

 

 

Relationship Feedback

The Main Purpose of This Report

is to help improve your relationship based on greater understanding of each other's unique qualities.

Purpose

A Few Guidelines for Carl
and Robert to Remember

  • Use this report as a tool with the mindset that anything that will help your relationship is worth the effort.
  • Read this report with the other person in mind. Remember, you are trying to understand the other person better in order to adapt your behavior to their needs. Focus on what you can do, not what they need to do.
  • Ask the other person to look this report over. They may not agree with what the report says about them entirely. That is normal. The report is not perfect. They can clarify their preferences and motivations.
  • Realize that the other person's natural personality style may differ from what you observe. This feedback is based primarily on each person's "basic style" - which is a person's natural, built-in personality. Each person also has an "environment style" which is how he or she adapts in daily life ( his or her environment). For example, a person may display different personality traits at work versus at home. So, while the other person's report may not seem to fit what you observe in them, it may give you a better picture of their natural personality style.
  • Review this Relationship Feedback report with the other person. Use this as an opportunity to interact and communicate with each other. Be open, honest and positive.
 

 

 

Relationship Feedback

Overview of Carl's Personality Style

You are great at relating to others positively while understanding the "how and why" of their emotions.

Personality blend:

S/IC which indicates Supportive (S), and Inspiring (I), and Cautious (C ). Very people-oriented, usually reserved, sometimes outgoing, sometimes task-oriented..

By having a SUPPORTIVE / INSPIRING / CAUTIOUS personality style, you tend to naturally be positive and supportive to encourage and care for the well-being of others. You make people a high priority in your undertakings; however you have a capacity for keeping tasks and goals in sharp focus. You are good at including others and being sensitive to the feelings of others. While you are usually reserved, there are times that you can be bold and assertive.

Behavioral style:

You tend to act in a way that is patient, persuasive, contemplative and cooperative

You want some degree of routine, approval, standards and harmony

Preferred Environment:

support-oriented, people-oriented, detail-oriented and team-oriented

Motivated by:

affirmation, positive feedback, structure and cooperation

Communication Style:

friendly, informal, systematic and cooperative

Decision-Making Style:

Your main priorities in decision-making are related to predictability, people and procedure. Therefore, you are likely to seek stable routines, interact, seek facts and participate in order to maintain status quo, persuade others, uphold principles and be a team player. Your focus tends to be the accepted, the popular, the rules and the team

 

 

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Overview of Robert's Personality Style

You are great at influencing others with encouraging words and vision.

Personality blend:

I/SD which indicates Inspiring (I), and Supportive (S) and Dominant (D), Very outgoing, usually people-oriented, sometimes task-oriented, sometimes reserved..

By having an INSPIRING / SUPPORTIVE / DOMINANT personality style, you tend to express enthusiasm and encouragement. Your people skills are strong, and you like to work with people to accomplish goals. You enjoy leading and encouraging a team, and you know how to get people involved.

Behavioral style:

You tend to act in a way that is persuasive, patient, assertive and free-spirited

You want some degree of approval, routine, control and non-structure

Preferred Environment:

people-oriented, support-oriented, results-oriented and personalized

Motivated by:

positive feedback, affirmation, challenges and independence

Communication Style:

informal, friendly, forceful and free-spirited

Decision-Making Style:

Your main priorities in decision-making are related to people, predictability and power. Therefore, you are likely to interact, seek stable routines, decide and explore feelings in order to persuade others, maintain status quo, solve problems and have self-expression. Your focus tends to be the popular, the accepted, the goal and your feelings

 

 

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Style Interaction Guide
for
Carl and Robert

The "Style Interaction Explorer" (next page) is designed to help you explore ways that you can adapt YOUR style to the style of another person in order to better connect with him or her. It is called an "Explorer," because adapting to another person is a dynamic process. Everyone has a mixture of all 4 personality traits, so it is helpful to think in terms of

  • what is his or her strongest trait?
  • what is his or her second strongest trait?
  • what trait or "mode" is he or she operating in at the moment? For example, if the other person is focused on getting something done right now, they could be in "D mode" where they are being very Direct and Dominating in order to get a task completed.

In other words, think about your interaction in the context of what is going on. For example, you may ask ... Is the other person in a hurry? Are they "raising their D" (dominant) trait? Is the other person asking many questions and "raising their C" (cautious) trait?

While no one is purely a D, I, S, or C personality style the Style Interaction Explorer uses those 4 distinct traits to help show how you can interact with others when each of you are operating primarily in one of those traits. Follow the instructions below to get started:

Instructions to use the Interaction Guide:

1. Look at Carl's primary style on the left. Note their areas of motivation, environment needs, how they want others to act (at times), and area that may be challenging for them.

2. Look at Robert's primary style on the right. Note their areas of motivation, environment needs, how they want others to act (at times), and area that may be challenging for them.

3. Next, the center section provides an "Interaction Guide" - suggesting the strengths, struggles and strategies for Carl interacting with Robert given the "mode" that each person is in at that time.

4. Most people have a strong secondary trait. After you have studied your interaction guide based on your primary traits, try selecting each person's secondary traits at the bottom of the next page and then click on the "Compare" button to reload the Interaction Guide. Go ahead, and explore the various personality trait combinations that you are likely to interact with when relating to the other person.

 

 

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Carl's Interaction Guide with Robert

Carl (S/IC)
in "S" mode

Is Motivated By:

  • Security
  • Appreciation
  • Assurance

Environment Needs:

  • An area of specialization
  • A sense of belonging
  • A predictable work pattern
  • Stability with few changes
  • A consistent, familiar environment

Wants You to:

  • Be relaxed and friendly
  • Give advanced notice of changes
  • Help as a friend
  • Allow freedom to work at a comfortable pace
  • Be clear on expectations with reachable goals

May Find it Difficult to:

  • See changes as opportunities
  • See that friendship is not everything
  • See discipline as a good thing
  • Say 'no' and be firm when needed
  • See when others take advantage of their willingness to serve

STRATEGIES for
Carl to work with Robert

Strengths:

You tend to get along well, because you are both people-oriented. You both provide praise and appreciation to each other which you both need to feel good about yourselves.

Struggles:

Your biggest struggle will be keeping up with the pace of this person. This person likes excitement and activity, but you like things to be slower and calmer. Inspiring (I) type people have a large social circle, and that can seem overwhelming to you.

Strategies:

Be more outgoing and energetic with this person. An inspiring person is very impulsive. Be careful not to let this person talk you into something. Set some limits, and do not feel pressured by this person's energy. Realize that he or she moves in large social circles, so do not take it personally if this person seems to give you fragmented attention.

 

Robert (I/SD)
in "I" mode

Is Motivated By:

  • Recognition
  • Approval
  • Popularity

Environment Needs:

  • Prestige
  • Friendly relationships
  • Opportunities to influence others
  • Opportunities to inspire others
  • Opportunities to verbalize ideas

Wants You to:

  • Be friendly and considerate
  • Be social and personable when not working
  • Provide regular recognition
  • Offer incentives and rewards for accomplishments
  • Be excited and upbeat

May Find it Difficult to:

  • Manage time properly
  • Keep from being overly optimistic
  • Listen to others
  • Complete tasks
  • Be accountable to someone

CombinationChange Combination: Carl's "mode":     Robert's "mode":

 

 

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Robert's Interaction Guide with Carl

Robert (I/SD)
in "I" mode

Is Motivated By:

  • Recognition
  • Approval
  • Popularity

Environment Needs:

  • Prestige
  • Friendly relationships
  • Opportunities to influence others
  • Opportunities to inspire others
  • Opportunities to verbalize ideas

Wants You to:

  • Be friendly and considerate
  • Be social and personable when not working
  • Provide regular recognition
  • Offer incentives and rewards for accomplishments
  • Be excited and upbeat

May Find it Difficult to:

  • Manage time properly
  • Keep from being overly optimistic
  • Listen to others
  • Complete tasks
  • Be accountable to someone

STRATEGIES for
Robert to work with Carl

Strengths:

Both of you are people-oriented. You like to talk and the other person likes to listen. You tend to get along very well.

Struggles:

Most struggles are related to pace. You like things fast-paced, exciting, spontaneous and with high energy. The other person likes things to be more calm, quiet and predictable.

Strategies:

Slow down your approach. Tone down your enthusiasm. Be sincere with praise and appreciation. Do not embarrass this person in public. Allow this person time to warm up and open up to you.

 

Carl (S/IC)
in "S" mode

Is Motivated By:

  • Security
  • Appreciation
  • Assurance

Environment Needs:

  • An area of specialization
  • A sense of belonging
  • A predictable work pattern
  • Stability with few changes
  • A consistent, familiar environment

Wants You to:

  • Be relaxed and friendly
  • Give advanced notice of changes
  • Help as a friend
  • Allow freedom to work at a comfortable pace
  • Be clear on expectations with reachable goals

May Find it Difficult to:

  • See changes as opportunities
  • See that friendship is not everything
  • See discipline as a good thing
  • Say 'no' and be firm when needed
  • See when others take advantage of their willingness to serve
CombinationChange Combination:  Robert's "mode":      Carl's "mode":

 

 

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Composite Graph for Carl and Robert

Refer to the graph below, and take note of who appears to be more outgoing (top half of the circle), more reserved (lower half of the circle), more task-oriented (left side of the circle), and more people-oriented (right side of the circle).

Dominant Inspiring
Task-
Oriented

Outgoing

Click to view summary for Robert Rohm Click to view summary for Carl Smith

Reserved

People-
Oriented
Cautious Supportive

 

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Comparing Personality Graphs
for
Carl and Robert

The next page is useful in comparing the ENVIRONMENTAL STYLES and BASIC STYLES for Carl and Robert. The environmental style graphs are shown on the left, and they reflect how each person tends to adapt in his or her environment. The environmental style graph is based on characteristics that each person tends to demonstrate in his or her outward environment. The environmental graph also tends to reflect what others usually see. So the graph on the left tends to show how each person adapts to everyday life.

The basic style graphs are shown on the right, and they reflect each person's natural, built-in personality style. The basic style graphs is based on characteristics that each person tends to demonstrate more consistently. The basic graph tends to show how each person behaves most comfortably. You might say that it reflects the real person inside and the areas that are his or her comfort zones.

Refer to the BASIC STYLE graphs on the next page. Look at each D, I, S and C level to note where there are similarities and where there are differences. Now answer the following questions:

Who is most comfortable with ... Carl or Robert?
Being Outgoing? (higher D and I traits)  
Being Reserved? (higher S and C traits)  
Being Task-Oriented? (higher D and C traits)  
Being People-Oriented? (higher S and I traits)  

Questions to consider ... Answer
Do you both like to work at the same pace?
(comparing your outgoing/reserved traits)
 
Do you both tend to have the same priorities & focus?
(comparing your task/people orientation)
 
What trait is Carl lowest in? What is the implication?  
What trait is Robert lowest in? What is the implication?  

Notes

 

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Individual Personality Graphs for
Carl and Robert

Team Member
Environmental
Style
(What others tend to see)
Basic
Style
(Who they are inside)
View Report


Robert
Rohm

Basic Style:
 I/SD 


Concise Report
view

Original Report
view



Carl
Smith

Basic Style:
 S/IC 


Concise Report
view

Original Report
view


NOTE: Please refer to the previous page for more information regarding the graphs above.

 

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How to Adapt - Quick Reference Guide

Adjusting to another person's personality style involves relating in a way that he or she is most receptive. You may need to move more quickly or just relax. You may need to be more enthusiastic or perhaps more serious. Try to mirror the behavior and focus of the other person. Consider what "mode" they are in ( D, I, S or C personality style) given the current situation. Refer to the chart below to see what to emphasize as you relate with the other person.

With DOMINANT (D) Style People be more Outgoing and Task-Oriented.
EMPHASIZE:
With INSPIRING (I) Style People be more Outgoing and People-Oriented.
EMPHASIZE:
  • Results
  • Opportunities
  • Solutions
  • Goals
  • Plans
  • Wise use of time
  • Leadership role
  • Authority
  • Their bold nature
  • Bottom line
  • Ownership
  • Efficiency
  • Fun
  • Enjoyment
  • Recognition
  • Dreams
  • People
  • Lifestyle
  • Energy
  • Enthusiasm
  • Their outgoing nature
  • Expectations
  • Stories
  • Success
With CAUTIOUS (C) Style People be more Reserved and Task-Oriented
EMPHASIZE:
With SUPPORTIVE (S) Style People be more Reserved and People-Oriented.
EMPHASIZE:
  • Quality
  • Value
  • Logic
  • Principles
  • Honesty
  • Integrity
  • Consistency
  • Validation
  • Their inquisitive nature
  • Details
  • Loyalty
  • Correctness
  • Support
  • Reliability
  • Teamwork
  • Service
  • Peace
  • Family
  • Steadiness
  • Relationships
  • Their cooperative nature
  • Understanding
  • Security
  • Friendships

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